The Gestalt Lens

Welcome to my blog, where I share my professional expertise on the subjects I encounter and think about every day in my therapy practice. I cover everything from mindfulness and mindset, to menopause, perfectionism, and boundary setting – all through the lens of Gestalt psychotherapy. Come to learn – and join in the discussion.

How To In Fall Love With Yourself

Self Imrovement

How To In Fall Love With Yourself

Loving oneself is not easy, as is no relationship that is deep and connected, they all take work. Self-love is not a destination - it is a journey and a skill that requires patience and practice. It is an art that is never perfected and it takes time to build a solid foundation, develop, grow, and trust. When you love yourself, you will reap more love in return because you simply cannot give away what you don’t already have.

What I Wish My 30-Year-old Self Knew

Women's Issues/Personal Growth

What I Wish My 30-Year-old Self Knew

'No matter if you are young or young at heart, I know it is never too late to change — or incorporate some new and healthy practices into your daily life. Here are ten things I wish I could have imparted to my younger self, things that have taken me years to learn.'

 From Frenzy to Focus: How We Can Cancel Hustle Culture & Create A New Sustainable Work Paradigm

Hustle Culture

From Frenzy to Focus: How We Can Cancel Hustle Culture & Create A New Sustainable Work Paradigm

“Hustle Culture” is an ethos often propounded by young self-proclaimed internet gurus that centers around the idea that working long hours and sacrificing self-care are required to succeed. This mentality may have gained popularity in the mid-2010s, but it has peaked, and now it has been sardonically renamed "Burnout Culture." So why exactly is Hustle Culture the wrong path to take? What damage can it cause? What is a viable, sustainable alternative to hustle culture? How can we move from Frenzy To Focus?

I'm Afraid To Be Alone

Self Care

I'm Afraid To Be Alone

The fear of being alone can negatively impact relationships from friends and family, to romantic and professional relationships. Being fearful about being alone can end up being a self-fulfilling prophecy and ensure that you do end up alone giving you the opposite of what you want. What causes this fear and what can you do about it?

Codependency: Causes and Moving Towards Interdependence 

self help/codependency

Codependency: Causes and Moving Towards Interdependence 

Someone who is codependent believes their needs are not worth attending to nor have they ever learned how to feel, accurately name, or express emotions, needs or wants. They need others to tell them that their feelings and needs are valid, that their opinions are acceptable, that they are good enough and they rely on others for their identity and sense of worth.